Autistic people are all different, much like neurotypicals are all different, so we're all going to have our own challenges. A super common challenge is surprises. It's a big one for me, for sure. I love routine. I love knowing what's around the corner. I love knowing which characters will die in a book or … Continue reading No Surprises, Please
Tag: social skills
On Friendship
A lot of what I read about autism and relationships focuses on friendship: the lack of friends, the difficulty in making or keeping friends. I'd thought about it previously, but now it feels like something I should dig into... I have friends. And I think I'm a good friend--I try to be. I am a … Continue reading On Friendship
The Writing Was on the Wall; We Just Couldn’t Read It
My mom sent me some images, pages out of my baby book. I don't know if they still do baby books or if it's ever been a universal thing, but it's a book full of prompts for parents to record their child's development. For example, there's a grid for first through fourth years, likes and … Continue reading The Writing Was on the Wall; We Just Couldn’t Read It
Masking & Anxiety & Living That Pandemic Life
I have 16 drafts in here waiting to be written or finished. When I first set up the blog, I opened the drafts--some only as titles and some with a bunch of notes--because I have so much to research and examine and make sense of, and I make sense of things mostly by writing about … Continue reading Masking & Anxiety & Living That Pandemic Life
Businessing
Last Friday I had to go in to the office, which was a little weird, since I've been working from home since March--it's a COVID safety measure to reduce the number of people in the building, and I am A-OK with it. This trip to the office was for a meeting with a printer rep … Continue reading Businessing
A Bit of Limbo: Between Self-Assessment and Professional Diagnosis
It's been about a month and a half since I took my first neurodiversity quiz and began researching autism, particularly in women. In one sense, I'm very comfortable with the "autism" label, like if a professional told me I am autistic with a side of OCD, I wouldn't be upset. But at the same time, … Continue reading A Bit of Limbo: Between Self-Assessment and Professional Diagnosis
Social Skills: D-/F+
"Does she hate me?" My partner Tom hears this a lot, and I swear it's usually not the case. No, the fact of the matter is that I most likely just didn't give that person what they needed, what they expect to give and get from new people they meet. I didn't seem interested in … Continue reading Social Skills: D-/F+
Delightfully Quirky 